By Jim Campbell
June 20th, 2021
Attention: If you are gay, don’t get all twisted, I’m just having fun.
If you are really disturbed about it, my apology, perhaps you would have more interest in a different website.
You may not like your mom or dad depending upon how you were “Reared”
But that’s o.k. because the people you never liked may have absolutely nothing to do with you from a genetic standpoint.
We must all get along or this could become another made up racist issue.
It’s International Non-Binary People’s Day And Here’s How To Celebrate
Happy International Non-Binary People’s Day!
In case you missed it,June 20th is International Non-Binary People’s Day. Today, we celebrate the amazing diversity of non-binary individuals.
Non-binary means an individual does not self-identify as a man or woman, in an exclusive manner.
Some identify as transgender.
Some identify as masculine and feminine.
That’s the point; they don’t fit into the strict confines of society’s gender constructs.
Sometime you just could not put your finger on something different a group of riders. They may be the Gay Sport bike Riders and let me tell you about them.
Ever stop at one of the sport
bike watering holes such as Newcomb’s Ranch or Alice’s, see a group of guys arrive, and something you just could not put your finger on seemed different about them? Big bikes, small bikes, loud bikes, quiet bikes, tall guys, short guys, thin guys, fat guys. All the same as you, but in some way…not. Well, you may have just crossed paths with my tribe, the Gay Sportbike Riders.
Full disclosure: I am, in the somewhat dude-ish formulation, a dude who digs dudes (DWDD). You might be too, but, statistically at least, you most likely aren’t. As such, your personal attitude towards DWDD is hopefully blasé, but could also include feelings ranging from curiosity to deport-them-all-to-Russia. Whatever. It’s not a lifestyle, it’s a life, and it’s the only one I’ll ever have.
Currently it’s a Street Triple and a dual-sport, but before that it was a BMW GS, and before that a literbike, and before that a supermoto, and etc. back to when I was eight-years-old. Many, including my husband, would argue that I’m much better at the whole bike thing than I am at the whole gay thing.
Don’t even try to make sense of these ding bats. You wonder why our country in moribund?
It’s because these kids can vote.
Bikes aren’t a hobby, they’re a part of who I am, much as they are for most readers of RideApart.
Also sharing space in the garage, for you fans of stereotype, is a first-gen Miata.
Who wouldn’t want to go around corners like a lizard down a drainpipe and work on their tan at the same time? But I digress.
Ride Apart asked me to write a guest article about my tribe and my bikes, after a somewhat snarky comment I posted in 10 Reasons You Should Not Date A Motorcyclist.
So here, I’ll respond to Jon Langston’s list along with a few things from Heather McCoy’s article, and even came up with a few of my own.
Now, without further ado, here are the reasons why the Gay Sportbike Riders are a crowd worth cultivating, regardless of your persuasion.
- We might be wearing jeans, but much more likely leather. Because we think road rash is icky. And, in some subsets, riding a bike is an excuse to wear leather in public everywhere, all the time.
- If we are around, we are late. Of course we are. Punctual Gay is practically an oxymoron.
- Boogers. “I’m only human, flesh and blood, a man…..” And, because Jonny Langston insisted it stay on the list. Still, I’ll say that Kleenex is everyone’s friend.
- We’re observant. You gotta give us this one. If you spent your life looking for the minutest non-verbal cues that would mean the difference between a beating and a date, you’d be observant, too.
- We’re dedicated to riding. If you don’t ride, and you’re thinking about dating one of us, don’t expect us to stop because of you. And don’t even think about asking us to stop riding, much less demanding that we do. On the other hand, we’d consider it a win if you had a pastime of your own that occupied similar amounts of passion, time and dedication.
- We’re connected. We tend to form into very close-knit, beehived communities of friendship and shared interests. The good news, it’s very easy to make like-minded friends. The band-of-brothers camaraderie is just off the charts. The bad news, after the breakup, he’s still around.
- We’re, generally, quite well behaved. “You boys aren’t like the bikers we usually get around here. You’re so handsome, polite and quiet!” Double the testosterone = double the trouble? So not true.
- Fast, yes, but prudent, too. In a world where racing is safe and sex is dangerous, we tend to be fairly well educated and rational about the true nature of risk. But, then, we would, wouldn’t we? Most of us have at least some formal, advanced rider/racing training. We like track days, too.
- We all think we’re cool. Only some of us are. The culture drivers known as Big Gay like to perpetuate the stereotype that we’re all well-dressed, fashion-forward, articulate, sensitive, go-getter, high-functioning success stories. Total myth. Just like anyone else, we reserve the right to dress like slobs, waste a day lying on the couch watching Top Gear, and all sorts of other well-intentioned misbehavior.
But, more than anything, we love our bikes, and we love riding. The Gay Sportbike Riders are often banished to the back of the pack in gay pride parades (TV commentator: “The only thing colorful about you guys is your bikes.”) We’d rather be on Mulholland Drive anyway.
That’s the beauty of this day. We get to understand and educate ourselves and others on non-binary persons.
Non-binary people also sometimes refer to themselves as gender-queer.
Sexual orientation is seperate from their gender identity.
They can have multiple orientations, like being bisexual, as cisgender people do.
It can mean transgender, as a genderqueer person may identify with a gender other than that they were born with.
However, not all non-binary individuals are transgender. nders, no gender, or their genderfluid, meaning they navigate on a spectrum between genders.
While I will tell you ways that you can celebrate today, there’s so much to be done in keeping our non-binary friends and family safe.
But first, let’s take a moment to honor this day!
Here are 7 ways you can be an ally today (and every day):
- Donate To A Charity That Supports Non-Binary Persons: There are many, but https://transequality.org/ and https://lgbt.foundation/ and https://aclu.org are just a few that offer help.
- Don’t Assume Their Pronoun: When you introduce yourself to someone new, share your preferred pronouns and let them do the same. This is important because preferred pronouns aren’t always obvious. For example, people often call my girlfriend, who personally identifies as a masculine-presenting lesbian, “sir.” Every time this happens, I see the devastation on her face.
- Put Your Pronouns In Your Insta Bio: It took all of a few seconds for me to type “she/her” into my bio. It shows you are aware of pronouns and will be respectful of theirs.
- Don’t Call Them Your Sister: If your family member identifies as non-binary or another term, genderqueer, then refer to them as your siblings, rather than your brother or sister. The same applies to saying that “this is my child” or “this is my parent.”
- It’s Their World: It’s their world and we also live in it! Please use them/they/their pronouns until you know what they prefer.
- Mx. Rogers: A bit of history: Mrs. originates from “mistress”, which is the feminine of mister or master. It can imply a married woman. Miss also derives from mistress, but implies an unmarried woman. Mister applies to a man, married or unmarried. That’s already a lot to process. You can address non-binary or genderqueer individuals using Mx. (pronounced mix or mux).
- “Ladies & Gentlemen…”: Rather than addressing a group as ladies and gentlemen, try saying “everyone.” In less formal settings, you can even try folks or as I spell it, folx.
Being an ally to non-binary and genderqueer individuals is so important.
Only last week, we lost a non-binary individual: Summer Taylor.
Summer died when a car drove into a crowd of Black Femme March partnered with Black Lives Matter to protest against police brutality in Seattle on July 4th.
Diaz Love, a fellow non-binary protester, was also hit.
They remain in critical care.
The driver of the car is being investigated for felony vehicular assault. In 2019, there were 27 deaths of at least transgender or non-binary people in the U.S. due to violence.
We must protect our gender non-conforming.